• [TRIGGER ALERT] One of the BIG reasons I rarely watch the news is because it’s sensationalized and focuses on the negative. Honestly, it’s mostly information that doesn’t enhance my life in any way.   

    Recently there’s been a media storm about celebrity abuse. In fact, there are clips and posts and judgement flying all over social media about why women stay, why women leave, why “it’s” their fault fault and more. It makes me ill on a really deep soul level.

    It also really triggered something in me about abuse and abusers. I woke up early yesterday morning and I penned this open letter that encapsulates how I was feeling. I decided to post it on Facebook (click the link to read it or share on FB or simply scroll down here to read).

    In the context of my business I don’t have a “container” for this important message (So, I’ve  posted it here in the “personal development” section of blog… ).

    What I do know is this is an important issue that we need to talk about and do what we can to help… I’m very passionate about this topic because it is personal on many levels and it’s time to stop the cycle.

    I hope you’ll take the time to read it, share your thoughts and press the share button on the post if it moves you.

    Every person I know has been touched by some form of abuse in some way. AND, if we don’t do our part to stop the cycle, who will? I know this is a raw topic but it’s too important not to address. If you need help, please get it. If you can help, please do it. 


    An Open Letter to the Lovers, Haters, Abused, Abusers, and those Judging and in Judgment

    Stop the cycle of abuseSTOP IT!

     You never know what perpetuated any situation. Abuse in any form – mental, physical, emotional, sexual and verbal is NOT OKAY!

     To the lovers: Start loving yourself first. It’s okay to feel compassion for the wounded little soul that inflicts the pain upon you but it’s not okay to sacrifice yourself because of their pain. It’s up to the abuser to change. It’s often learned behavior and will take A LOT of work on the part of the abuser to acknowledge the cycle let alone change. The damage often runs deep. Deeper than your love. You cannot fix it. YOU must break the cycle.

     To the haters: Stop hating and try loving. Start with yourself. It’s not okay to hate even in the darkest times. It’s okay to walk away. It’s okay to protect yourself. But stop hating and hurting (lashing out is a direct indication that there is something deeper you must look at inside yourself). YOU must break the cycle.

     To the abused: It’s NOT OKAY! It’s not okay in any size, shape or form. Even silence can be abuse. There is another way. You just don’t know it and have not experienced it yet. You are beautiful, worthy and you deserve the best this world has to offer. Abuse is not the best the world has to offer. It may be all you’ve known and that hurts my heart for you. It isn’t all you have to know. Get help. Talk to someone. Walk away. Love yourself first. Help yourself. Stop hiding and protecting the abuser and perpetuating the abuse. Talk to someone. YOU must break the cycle.

     To the abuser: Stop abusing. Stop abusing your loved ones. Stop abusing yourself. This may be all you know. I believe abuse in any form is most often a learned experience. It breaks my heart for you that you experienced that. You likely know how it feels. It’s up to you to stop. Get the help you need. Heal yourself. YOU must break the cycle.

     To the judging: Stop judging. Your judgment of the lover, the hater, the abused and the abuser is likely perpetuating the issue. Abuse is not okay in any form (mental, emotional, physical, sexual or verbal).  Are you so lucky to have never been touched by any of these abuses? Are you so wounded that all you can do is lash out in judgment? Yes, things need to change. Is your judgment helping? How can you use that energy to make a difference? Channel your judgement into something useful. YOU must break the cycle.

     To the judged: No matter what role you play in the cycle of abuse you are judged. The lover is shamed for loving. The hater is blamed for hating. The abused is ridiculed for staying or for leaving. The abuser is condemned or excused. Those judging are called out for their judgement. The judgment continues in an endless loop. For the most part, it’s all learned behavior. Where did it start? Where will it end? What will you do to change? YOU must break the cycle.

     It’s your move. Talk to someone. 

     It’s up to you. It’s time to STOP. ♥

    * Lisa Manyon 2014© — Inspired by the media frenzy and backlash about celebrity domestic abuse as well as some really tragic events that hit far too close to home. This goes beyond the spotlight. 


    Lisa Manyon is "The Business Marketing Architect" a content and copywriting strategist for mission-driven entrepreneurs. She's the creator of the NEW marketing model for success (as seen in Inc. Magazine) that's changing the way people market today. She specializes in powerfully communicating your marketing message to increase results via Manyon Marketing Web Makeovers, website copy packages and content strategies to effectively market your business. She offers a free Copywriting Action Plan and marketing resources on her award winning blog. Her consulting and coaching is known to help produce million dollar results www.writeoncreative.com/blog


    One response to “STOP the Cycle of Abuse”

    1. evrim says:

      It is a great post Lisa.For changing the cycle we should change the inputs.Because we are the reflection of what we digest.We all digest life diffrently and it makes us to interpret life diffrently.This is what makes us unique.We are all born with GPRS and some people are born with the best one and they lead so you are right if your GPRS is not good enough to find the true ways it means you need a sincere help.

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