Have You Experienced Business or Success Envy?

Have you ever had a moment when you felt a little jealous of someone else or maybe you started comparing yourself to others? Perhaps you even went so far as to say “who does SHE think SHE is?” when you saw how a mentor or industry expert was doing business?


During the recent live webcast interviews with James Roche and Ali Brown, Doreen Rainey touched on the topic of “Business Envy”. She was very transparent about her initial reaction to how much Ali Brown charges for programs. She openly admitted that she had “Business Envy”. AND she got over it, enrolled in Ali’s program and invested in herself. I think if we’re all honest with ourselves, we’ve each felt this way a time or two and I applaud Doreen for coining the phrase “Business Envy”.  I told Doreen I was going to quote her in my ezine because I always like to give credit where credit is due. I checked with her to see the exact phrase she used because I wanted to quote her correctly and I  thought she said “Success Envy”. The two are similar but a little different.

With “Business Envy” you look at someone else and think “who does she think she is to charge that much?’

With “Success Envy” you compare and you question your own worth and what you have achieved because it seems others have achieved a higher level of success than you.

Both are stumbling blocks to getting what you really want because the answers are within you. You have the ability to choose to create a profitable business and to define what success means to you.

I remember when I first started  Write On Creative in 2003. It was only a dream and I sought out industry experts to strategically align myself with so I could quickly position myself as a leader in the industry. Naturally I was attracted to Lorrie Morgan-Ferrero (one of the top female copywriters in the industry, my first high-level mentor and someone who was, at that time, commanding $750 an hour). I experienced a little business envy when I first started following her and I secretly wanted to know “who she thought she was?”. I also knew I wanted to achieve that level of success. So, I took action, set my ego aside and I invested in myself. It paid for itself many times over and I’m happy to count her among my friends and trusted colleagues (one of the very few copywriters I’ll cross-refer business to).

I’ve also had my fair share of success envy where I’ve compared myself and my business to others instead of owning my definition of success and fully celebrating how far I’ve come and everything I’ve achieved. An example of this is wishing for a bigger home instead of being really happy that I was wise enough to invest in and purchase my home.  My point is, we all experience business and success envy to some degree and when we recognize it we can move on and and we can celebrate who we are.  When we experience success envy we tend to give our power away and hide behind the success of others which sometimes diminishes our own gifts.

The question “who does she think she is?” has come up about me lately because I’m raising my rates for the 5 Page Web Copy Packages. I’ve also had a few prospects wonder why my rates are what they are and WHY they should invest in my services.

So, here’s who I KNOW I am (not who I think I am). I feel really blessed to give women a voice to turn your ideas into something that matters via web copy and marketing strategies to build relationships, truly connect with your ideal clients and ultimately increase your income online. I do this with a combination of specialized training and real world experience that gets results. Simply put, I meet you where you are in your business. You may need copy, have copy that needs help, want to learn to write better copy yourself or you may need one-on-one individualized business building strategies. I also don’t judge you or your personal definition of success. I help you leverage your own time and talents with proven strategies I know work.

Specialized training and real world experience:

It takes money to make money and investments in your business are just that — investments — not expenses (often they are a tax write off). I have invested in my craft by mentoring and studying with the best of the best including Lorrie Morgan-Ferrero, John Carlton and Peter Bower (author of The Well Fed Writer a book that features me as a success story) and achieving the Glazer- Kennedy “Creating Copy that Sells” certification. I blend my training with my ad agency experience and have created my own unique style of writing to match my ideal clients voices (this means it sounds like you and isn’t cheesy or overly salesy yet it still sells).

Beyond honing my craft I’ve invested in business building training with James Roche and Ali Brown. So, I have practical knowledge of how to create, operate and run a profitable business based on your own level of success (never let anyone define this for you).

Results:

I help my preferred clients get results. My Manyon Marketing Web Makeovers streamline the online sales process to increase opt-ins and sales by improving strategy and copy. My 5 Page Web Copy Packages help clients create or rewrite web copy to increase results while saving time and money (if you don’t invest in your copy wisely and it falls flat you’re missing opportunities to be of service and profit). Finally, for more advanced preferred clients, my Content Strategy Plan helps organize and streamline your online marketing editorial calendar for a year at a time (with room for adjustments) and has generated $40,000.00 for a one client when she utilized the techniques in ONE email campaign.

So, between real-world experience, investing in mentorship and business training as well as being really confident in the results generated, that’s who I know I am. But, it’s taken time to own that and to accept the responsibility that comes with being a leader.

With that being said. How will you invest in yourself and your business?

If you’re interested in discovering how we can work together, be sure to visit my website here.

 

17 Responses to “Have You Experienced Business or Success Envy?”

  1. Sue Painter Says:

    I think almost all biz owners look around at what others are doing and wonder if they should be doing things differently and getting different results. Sometimes I think it is admiration more than envy, but there’s some of both.

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    Lisa Manyon Reply:

    Sue,

    I agree. I think it’s harder to admit when we’ve felt envy or doubted ourselves, though. It’s important to note that that is a part of the entrepreneurial process. :)

    Write on!~

    Lisa

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  2. Trudy Scott, Food Mood Expert and Nutritionist Says:

    Lisa
    What a thought-provoking article! and very to the point! I like this “WHO I know I am!” and love Doreen’s term business envy!
    Trudy

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    Lisa Manyon Reply:

    Hi Trudy,

    I think if we’re all honest with ourselves we’ve each experienced business envy and we’ve also had people question us about “who we think we are”. It’s important to be clear on our purpose and why we do what we do to be in full alignment and integrity.

    Write on!~

    Lisa

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  3. Debbie McNeill Says:

    Lisa, I know I have had admiration/business envy more than once. You are so right, the best way to get out of my head is to take action to move myself and business forward and appreciate the value in learning from others. I don’t think business envy will ever go away so I’m so glad that I have a plan of action to handle it when it raises it’s ugly head. Great article. ~Debbie

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    Lisa Manyon Reply:

    Debbie,

    I think that once we gain more confidence in ourselves it fades. But I also know we are our own worst critics and tend to be too hard on ourselves and compare. It can be a hard pattern to break.

    Write on!~

    Lisa

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  4. Kiyla Fenell Says:

    Lisa,

    Great article! I like to run my own race and “compete against myself” and try to do what I’m called to do. Anything other than that takes your eyes off of your path and can get you trying to be someone you are not…which is frustrating and impossible.

    Kiyla Fenell

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    Lisa Manyon Reply:

    Kiyla,

    I love that you run a race against yourself and do what you are called to do. It’s so important to live our mission and purpose while serving others.

    Write on!~

    Lisa

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  5. Mitch Tublin Says:

    Lisa,
    Agree all around with your post. Some people are living their lives and running their business like they are in a reality TV show. The big difference they somehow forget is the people on the reality TV shows are actually getting paid. They are earning money.
    Mitch

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    Lisa Manyon Reply:

    Mitch,

    That is so true. When people realize it takes money to make money and that investing in your business or yourself is truly an investment and not expense, the real magic starts.

    Write on!~

    Lisa

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  6. Dr. Robert Fenell Says:

    Lisa,

    You brought some really good points to light in this post. I have dealt with business envy at various times in my business career. It’s always amazed me how when I redirect my energy to bettering myself it has a way of dissolving those emotions. Great post!

    Dr. Robert Fenell

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    Lisa Manyon Reply:

    Dr. Bob,

    Yes it’s all about continued growth and investing in ourselves. Anything else is a waste of time and untapped talent.

    Write on!~

    Lisa

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  7. Debbie Seidel-Bittke Says:

    Lisa,

    Good stuff!
    I have made an investment in ELEVATE this year!
    So exciting and I feel the growth occurring daily.

    Keep on keeping Lisa!

    Debbie

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    Lisa Manyon Reply:

    Debbie,

    Congratulations for investing in yourself. That’s what it’s all about.

    Never let anyone define success for you.

    Write on!~

    Lisa

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  8. Doreen Says:

    Such a great topic and discussion. It was a hard pill to swallow when I recognized this in myself. But, once I realized that my focus should be on how to grow my business, I was able to forget about the envy and turn my attention to learning what I needed to know to grow my business.

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    Lisa Manyon Reply:

    Doreen,

    I am right there with you. It’s kind of embarrassing but so many people feel this same way that it’s important to share and help others move past it.

    Write on!~

    Lisa

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  9. Jennifer Bourn Says:

    Lisa – I think we’ve ALL been there. It’s easy to get caught up in business envy or success envy … wondering how “she” can charge that? How “she” can say that? How “she” can claim that? How “she” can make that?

    It’s easy to live in those thoughts because you’re focus on someone else. When you focus on yourself and who you are, things get harder. You have to admit where you’re not doing as well as you want and you have to put in the time and effort to work to get where you want to go.

    A lesson I also had to learn is that some of those people you envy … aren’t what they seem to be. A lot of people fake it or put of successful fronts, when really they’re no better off than you are.

    Jennifer Bourn, Bourn Creative

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