Never Coach With a Coach Who Doesn’t Have A Coach…
Lo & Lisa
Recently I attended Ali Brown’s Coaching Business Intensive event. The event was full of great content and attended by incredible people including my very first coach Lorrie Morgan-Ferrero. When I first started my business, I invested in one-on-one coaching with Lorrie because I knew she was the top female copywriter in the Nation and I wanted to know how she did it so I could apply her proven strategies to my business. It was a solid investment that provided accountability, support and motivation to continually move my business forward.
Ali & Lisa
As I looked around the room at the 159 other people I knew for sure that I was in the exact right place to move my business forward. Each of the attendees are driven, dedicated individuals who understand the value of investing in themselves by investing in others. People who purchased tickets paid just under $10,000.00 per ticket to be there (my ticket was comped as part of the perks of being in the Millionaire Protege Club and coaching with Ali, but there were many new faces in the room).
I bring up the investment not to impress, or because of the dollar amount, but as illustration that if you’re really serious about your business, you’ll invest in mentorship, training and mastermind groups that move you forward personally and professionally. It’s all about how you value yourself. And, it’s also quite impressive to see Ali leverage her knowledge, build her team to include James Roche (who is another one of my favorite coaches), model successful business models and continually create new revenues streams that truly help move business forward and empower women (and enlightened, progressive men) to step into bigger things. (yes, I feel lucky to have her as my coach –but it wasn’t luck that made it happen, it was dedication, determination and a solid investment in myself.)
But first the takeaways:
- Never coach with someone who doesn’t have a coach: Why invest in someone who isn’t constantly investing in themselves? Just sayin’.
- You are not responsible for your coaching clients you are responsible to them. Don’t take ownership of their actions — you can provide guidance but you cannot make them act and it’s not your fault if they don’t. It’s as simple as the old saying “You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink”.
- The more successful you become, the more vindictive some people get. (I learned this firsthand when I promoted the Manyon Marketing Makeover Individual Accountability Partnerships — I actually got “hate” mail from one of the Write On Community members.)
With that in mind, I’d like to ask you: What do you most want in a coaching/mastermind program? Please take a quick minute to answer that question here because if you’re truly interested in moving forward personally and professionally, your input could shape my program and this could be just what you’ve been looking for… Your opinion matters — share it here or leave a comment.
August 12th, 2010 at 4:29 pm
Lisa,
Love your post and CBI was quite the experience indeed. It’s great that you are drawing attention to what some don’t feel comfortable discussing. I’m always fascinated by entrepreneurs who can’t understand why they’re not moving ahead, particularly when they always try to barter services and/or don’t hire someone to coach them in forward in their business…I hope many others have the opportunity to read this and share with their communities!
Many thanks,
Jennifer
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August 13th, 2010 at 6:22 am
Jennifer,
Thanks for the comment. It is true that far too many people don’t believe enough in themselves to invest in themselves. It makes me sad because I know what a difference stepping up and following my dreams has made for me. AND I know I couldn’t have done it without my various mentors and like minded entrepreneurs who have supported me throughout my journey and still do.
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 13th, 2010 at 9:36 am
Hi Lisa,
Invest in yourself…good food, good supplements, good books, seminars,
training AND great coach. I’m living proof that it is not an expense; it’s an investment. Great article as always!
Kiyla
http://www.theultimatestaffingsuccesssystem.com
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August 13th, 2010 at 9:51 am
Kiyla,
You are so right about it not being an expense, it’s an investment. And “we” (meaning everyone) is so wort it). I often tell people that same thing about marketing in general. Interesting how a small shift in perception can make such a HUGE difference.
Blessed to mastermind and grow with you!~
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 13th, 2010 at 10:00 am
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August 13th, 2010 at 6:36 pm
Lisa,
What I love about masterminds are when people truly support each other and want to be involved with each other. They follow each other’s businesses by opting in and really are in touch with what they’re doing.
You go girl!
xo
Linda
Linda P. Jones´s last undefined ..If you register your site for free at
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August 14th, 2010 at 7:42 am
Joining Ali’s Platinum this year has been such a joy!
I’ve always invested in myself, but this is the first long term program filled with entrepreneurs.
It is true that when you invest in yourself and do what you need to do to help yourself grow you are in a better position to help others.
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August 14th, 2010 at 9:01 am
What a great few days!! SO GREAT! You really summed up many of my important take-aways, too! XO, Katherine. (P.S. Congrats on having Ali re-post this on FB!!)
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August 14th, 2010 at 11:02 am
Linda,
Yes, mutual support is crucial and I LOVE what you are doing to educate women worldwide about ways to embrace wealth. You’ve already taught me a lot.
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 14th, 2010 at 11:03 am
Laura,
Isn’t it truly fabulous when you find your “tribe”. I finally feel somewhat “normal” and at home.
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 14th, 2010 at 11:04 am
Katherine,
Thanks for your support. The takeaways really made a big impact for me and I’m honored that Ali enjoyed the post, too. Sorry we couldn’t connect more at CBI. Looking forward to seeing you in Arizona very soon.
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 14th, 2010 at 12:02 pm
Thanks Lisa for your reminders of CBI, such a profound experience and so honored to have shared it with YOU!
Wishing you all the very best with your new program too!
Lynn
Get Clear Goals with Lynn Moore´s last blog ..Do You Get What You Want With Attachment or Acceptance
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August 14th, 2010 at 1:10 pm
Yep!
Really good stuff at CBI. I’m investing in me in ways I never thought of — it’s all part of respecting myself more powerfully.
Hugs to you!
Grace
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August 14th, 2010 at 1:43 pm
“You are not responsible for your coaching clients you are responsible to them” — love it! Was my biggest takeaway from CBI, and such a stress reliever.
– Carmen
Carmen@GetOrganized´s last blog ..Get Organized- De-Clutter Your Costanza Wallet
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August 14th, 2010 at 6:56 pm
Hi Lisa
Your recollection of the Ali event of CBI is spot on – it was a really jammed packed session with lots of great insights, information an sharing.
It is so true that to be a great leader in business you must be continually investing in yourself. I posted some videos while at the event that you might want to take a look at too: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9s0fs3go0qo
Cheers
heidi Alexandra the living leaders advocate
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August 14th, 2010 at 8:36 pm
CBI was a brilliant experience as is coaching with Alis platinum group. I loved doing our ‘exercise’ at CBI with you lisa – I wish you all the best for your Manyon Makeovers .
It really is important to invest in ourselves – or how can we expect others to invest in us if we don’t model this by valuing ourselves enough?
Your takeaways are spot on!
Pinky
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August 16th, 2010 at 12:52 pm
Lynn,
It was an incredible experience and it’s fun to see how my Manyon Marketing Makeover Mastermind is unfolding with the input from people who are interested.
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 16th, 2010 at 12:53 pm
Grace,
The best thing I’ve ever done for myself is too finally value myself enough to invest in personal and professional growth. I’m passionate about helping others step into a place of “being” where they own their worth and do what’s best for them.
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 16th, 2010 at 12:55 pm
Heidi,
Great video. I’ve subscribed to your YouTube channel, too. Your program looks fabulous.
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 16th, 2010 at 12:56 pm
Pinky,
It was such a joy to spend time w/ you mapping out our programs together at CBI. Thanks for all of your support.
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 16th, 2010 at 4:18 pm
Lisa – this is so true! People are very reluctant to invest in themselves. They want to see results BEFORE they have to put something out there. Unfortunately, it works the other way around! Invest in yourself first, then reap the rewards.
Thanks for the reminder!
Patricia Selmo´s last blog ..Life is A River
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August 16th, 2010 at 10:05 pm
Hi Lisa,
Fabulous post. I had a similar conversation this morning with one of my coaching clients. Thanks so much for sharing!
Ellen Martin
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August 17th, 2010 at 10:05 am
Hi Patricia,
Yes, that is true. It took me a long time to grasp the idea, too. BUT I am so glad I did and since I’m very careful about the people I invest in when investing in myself, I’m happy to report the results and ROI have been FANTASTIC.
Write on!~
Lisa
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August 18th, 2010 at 10:20 pm
Lisa,
Great quotes to use from your article. Enjoyed your CBI recap. Happy to have been one of the participating men in the room.
Mitch
Mitch Tublin´s last blog ..Hanging Up a Framed Photo and Your Business Are Related How
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